Archives for : April2012

GUEST SPEAKER: Gabriel Arana On ‘My So-Called Ex-Gay Life’ 4/27

This Friday we will be joined by Gabriel Arana, web editor of The American Prospect, who recently wrote “My So-Called Ex-Gay Life.”

In the article, he recounts his experiences with ex-gay therapy, which he underwent during high school after his parents discovered he was gay. He also reports on the ex-gay movement, and talks to Robert Spitzer, the author of a 2001 study claiming that the therapy worked. Spitzer, interestingly, also led the effort to declassify homosexuality as a mental disorder. In his visit with him, Spitzer renounces the study.
Today, news broke that Spitzer apologized for the study.
Join us at 8:30 Friday at St. Margaret’s. Afterwards, as always, we will go out for dinner.
Read the article, it’s a gut-wrenching personal essay combined with reporting on the ex-gay movement. Here’s an excerpt:
Early in my freshman year of high school, I came home to find my mom sitting on her bed, crying. She had snooped through my e-mail and discovered a message in which I confessed to having a crush on a male classmate.
“Are you gay?” she asked. I blurted out that I was.
“I knew it, ever since you were a little boy.”
Her resignation didn’t last long. My mom is a problem solver, and the next day she handed me a stack of papers she had printed out from the Internet about reorientation, or “ex-gay,” therapy. I threw them away. I said I didn’t see how talking about myself in a therapist’s office was going to make me stop liking guys.

04/20/2012: FB to BF to ?? The circle of lust and love among gay friends

I love my gay best friend forever!

Who’s Johnny? Well, he started off as my first gay crush. Then we fooled around a bit… well a lot. Sort of like FBs! After a while, though, it got old. Yet, we had a lot in common, so we became BFs. Now, I find myself still attracted to him… just a little. I wonder if we could have a BFF thing?

Are you often befriending gay men in hopes of getting a date with them later? Do you dream of taking your gay BF to another level–like BFF? What happens when FBs just become BFs? Do these sound like your gay social circle? Come out Friday to talk about all of the different ways we experience friendships, relationships, and the circle of lust and love that often surround them.

As always, we will meet at 8:30 pm at St. Margaret’s Church for discussion followed by dinner (and more convo) nearby. Can’t wait to talk with my GD friends this Friday!


Oh the Horror! Tales of Gay Desire & Distress

It’s Friday the 13th! What better way to spend this most fearful and unlucky day than with cute guys and tales of terror and horror?

Discussion for Friday the 13th will have two parts. The first we will share gay horror stories–whether you have a real-life story of a bad date gone really creepy, heard about an unlucky incident that happened to a friend of a friend, or a poor, unfortunate gay soul you’ve read about or seen on TV or in a movie.

The second half of the evening we will collectively make up the gayest terrible, horrible, no good, very bad Friday the 13th our imaginations can dream up to exorcise any possibilities those things could happen to us by night’s end.

Of course, we will go out afterward to eat & drink together to end what should be a very happy Friday the 13th. Discussion starts at 8 pm at St. Margaret’s Church in Dupont as always. Until then, mind ladders and black cats!


04/06/2012 – “The Legacy We Leave”









With Youth Pride 2012 just a few short weeks away I got to thinking, “What is it that the gay youth of today will inherit from us, their gay elders?” Are we responsible to teach them the ways of safety in cruising? Is the history of Dupont Circle that is slowly being lost important for those up and coming Gay-bies to know? What influence can/do we have in insuring the next set of young LGBT activists have the support and knowledge that they need in order to continue to create change when we are too busy changing diapers (whether they are our children’s or our own)? More importantly how can you as an individual leave an LGBT legacy for others to strive or admire? Whether it’s being the queen of the social scene or the poz life advocate and educator. Whether the knowledge you pass is to be safe with your heart as well as your body, how will you want to leave it and who do you want to give it to? How much knowledge and strength have we gained or lost due to the generation who lost their fight in the early epidemic of HIV/AIDS?

This Friday let’s sit and discuss how we want the next generation (Generation Fab!) to succeed and how we whether want to have a hand in helping them do it.

As per always we’ll be meeting at 8:30 p.m. at St. Margaret’s Episcopal, 1830 Connecticut Ave NW, via the Parish Office entrance/buzzer. After discussion we will head to dinner and afterwards see what trouble we can get ourselves into!