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September 19: Secrets And Lies

Gossip has come into the 21st century with smartphone apps like Secret and Whisper. The programs allow users to anonymously share secrets and users to comment and like them. One Daily Beast article revealed that the app Secret had taken a particular hold in the Washington, D.C. gay community, and indeed — many around are about sex, dating, relationships and STDs. Others are less gossipy and more attempts to share personal stories in an anonymous setting.


Do these apps provide a valuable place for people to share their feelings when they might not be comfortable with a friend/family member? Or are they purely outlets for mean gossip? Has a Secret ever affected you? Would you throw shade at someone on an app like this? Are you endlessly fascinated by it? Are all of these “secrets” in fact, true?


We’ll discuss this new phenomenon at the DC Center at 2000 14th St. NW, on the First Floor of the Reeves Center, at 8:30 on Friday. Afterwards, we’ll head out to one of the fine establishments on the U Street Corridor to eat. Call me at (617) 877-5484 if you have troubles finding us.

09/05/14: LGBT+What? Your shared identities


Last week in the Washington Blade, Carrie Evans, the executive director of Equality Maryland had an op-ed on her organization’s move to support immigration rights in that state’s post-marriage equality life, noting her own experience as an immigrant. And just opposite Evans’s op-ed, Mark Lee wrote one about how LGBT identities are multi-faceted and can’t always be led to march in lock-step on non-gay issues. As he noted:


Rather than asserting that being gay should invoke a “plus sign” after one’s identity, it would be more accurate to invert one’s gay identity to a “follow-on” position. As in, “I’m a small business owner and I’m lesbian” or “I’m a feminist and I’m gay.” It would prove more illustrative of evolving self-perceptions in the emerging new world of assimilation in which we’ve begun to live.


In DC, we’re lucky to have a diverse LGBT community where it’s common to have a “plus sign” or “follow-on” to our gay identities; we can easily meet other gays and and non-gays who share more than just attraction to men. For me, that means being a political, singing choir boy! What’s your plus sign/follow-on?


This week we’ll discuss the other parts of ourselves that create the diverse friendships and communities we are a part of. So if you’re a g(l)eek, gaymer, athlete, singer, political activist, bookworm, fashionista, club kid, or whatever, come out this Friday at 8:30 pm to connect with other guys who may have similar interests and share where the best spots to indulge your passions are!


Your facilitator this week, Jay


PS-Remember, Gay District meets at The DC Center, located inside the Reeves DC government building. Attendees will need to enter the Reeves building via the “Exit” doors on 14th Street, facing McDonald’s. We encourage attendees to bring their photo ID to gain access inside the building. If you do not have or are unable to present a photo ID, please contact me ahead of time by email or The DC Center’s Executive Director David Mariner.